Having a parent who is sick—or who has health problems—can bring up a lot of questions and feelings for any kid. But you don’t have to feel alone.
Right now, there are 28,000 people in Canada living with young onset dementia. And many of them have kids like you who are going through the same thing.
In fact, more people are recognizing that kids like you are special. You are part of a growing group of kids in Canada known as young caregivers.
Right now, there are more than 1.25 million young caregivers in Canada. Young caregivers are kids aged 5 to 25 years old. Young caregivers help siblings, parents, grandparents, cousins, aunties, uncles, friends and neighbours with a huge range of health needs—including young onset dementia.
Here a few helpful things to know if you are 12 or younger and your parent has been diagnosed with young onset dementia. (If you are 13 or older, read our page for teens. And if you are 18 to 29, visit our page for young adults.)
You can get help from a young caregivers group
Young caregivers are very important. There’s even a special group you can join called the Young Caregivers Association (YCA).
“YCA helps us understand that we are not alone and makes us feel like we matter,” says one 12-year-old member.
YCA runs a program called Powerhouse that has some use at home right now by visiting powerhouse.youngcaregivers.ca. You can also register for more support by filling out this form or asking a family member to help you do that.
The number of young caregiver groups is growing across Canada. We will add more to this list as they develop.
The Dementia in My Family website is helpful
Dementia experts in Australia created a special website for kids worldwide who have a family member living with dementia.
You can find it anytime at dementiainmyfamily.org.au.
Each section has ideas about what might help you right now. Some also have sections where kids like you share their stories.
Some of those stories talk about about having a parent with young onset dementia, too. And you can submit your own story to be posted on the website as well.
It’s always ok to talk with a trusted grown-up, counsellor or Kids Help Phone
It’s good to talk about the feelings that young onset dementia in your family brings up for you.
Talking to a trusted grown-up, a counsellor at school, a leader in your faith community, or a worker from your local Alzheimer Society are all great places to start.
Also know that anytime you want to talk, chat or message about anything you are feeling or going through, Kids Help Phone is here 24/7 across Canada.
You can reach Kids Help Phone in a few different ways:
- visit kidshelpphone.ca
- call 1-800-668-6868
- text 686868
It can be a good idea to tell your teacher or principal that your parent has young onset dementia
When any kid becomes a young caregiver, it means they might become a bit more distracted in school. Or they might find it harder to finish their homework as well as they used to.
Telling your teacher or principal that your parent has young onset dementia can help them understand those changes better.
Telling them can also help the grown-ups at your school support you and be there for you.
It can be good to check with your parent or other family members first, though, before approaching a teacher or principal.
A parent or other family member could have great ideas about how to start the conversation with your school! Or they might want to join you in talking with your teacher and principal. It’s also very possible they have told your school already, too!
You can learn more about dementia at Dementia Explained
Some people like to say that information is power. That means that the more you know about something, the easier it might be to understand and manage.
If you want to learn more about dementia, there is a super webpage called Dementia Explained that can help. It has sections for kids under 6, and also for kids 6 to 12.
There are some really great books you can read that apply to young onset dementia
There are more and more picture books, chapter books and novels to read about kids with young onset dementia in their families.
In picture books, there is Big Bear, Little Bear and Dementia by Katie Faulkner and Iain Welch. Another is This is my family by Barbara Chambers and Karen Harborow. Or try or My Book About Brains, Change and Dementia by Lynda Moore.
In novels and chapter books, try these: The book The Space Between Lost and Found by Sandy Stark-McGinnis is about a girl named Cassie whose mom starts to have problems remembering things. Sticky Notes by Dianne Touchell is about a boy named Foster whose dad starts having memory issues. And both explore a lot of the feelings and situations you might be experiencing these days.
You might be able to get other kinds of help from specific disease groups too
There are more than 50 different diseases or conditions that can cause young onset dementia.
If you know what specific kind your parent has, then there are even more supports and tools you can access.
For example, if your parent has frontotemporal dementia (FTD) and you are between the ages of 5 and 9, there’s a special free activity book you can download to help you become an FTD Detective. There is also a whole part of the Association for Frontotemporal Degeneration website for kids like you, including stories from kids going through the same thing.
If your parent has Alzheimer’s disease, there’s also a whole part of the U.S. Alzheimer’s Association website that is for kids to learn more about this disease.
Help can also come from faith community groups and cultural community groups
There are many helping groups and agencies in Canada.
Some of these were created by or are connected to faith communities and cultural communities.
Here are just a few examples of these many groups:
- The Black Youth Helpline was created by volunteers in Winnipeg in 1992 and has been in Ontario since 2003. It is available every day across the country at 416-285-9944 or toll-free 1-833-294-8650.
- The British Columbia Aboriginal Network on Disability Society is an award-winning group serving the unique and diverse disability and health resource needs of Indigenous peoples across Canada. You can call them toll-free at 1-888-815-5511 or visit bcands.bc.ca for more information.
- DEEN Support Services is a group founded by Muslims with disabilities. DEEN—which stands for Disability Equality Empowerment Network—aims to help any family living with disability. They are mostly based in Ontario but have Canada-wide knowledge. Find out more at deensupportservices.ca.
- The Health Association of African Canadians has a mission to promote and improve the health of African Canadians in Nova Scotia. The association runs an active Facebook page at facebook.com/HealthAssociationofAfricanCanadians. They can also be reached at (902) 405-HAAC (4222) or haac.ca.
And the Alzheimer Society is always here to help as well
The Alzheimer Society was started a long time ago to help families with Alzheimer’s disease.
Now, it supports all people in Canada who are affected by all kinds of dementia—including kids.
You can find your local society’s contact information at alzheimer.ca/find.
Or reach out to our national information and referral line at firstname.lastname@example.org and 1-855-705-4636, and we will put you in touch with your area’s counsellors and experts ASAP.